Friday, May 10, 2013

Breathing Deep

Although I still have a thesis to write, I finished my classes for my Masters degree on Wednesday night. I had three courses this semester and they were all challenging and enjoyable. I didn't think that I would be able to finish well, but with the help of an amazing husband and a kind Heavenly Father, I did it! Finals week (this week) brought on impetigo, a visit to the doctor's office, little sleep and tears, but now that it is done I feel like I can breath deeper. I know, especially now that it is over, that I made the right decision to do it now. Jane is only two years old and I will be completely done before she is three. Even Cody, the one that had to pull extra weight, is grateful for the timing. My education is mine forever and I don't have any doubts that it will bless my family and hopefully many others throughout my life. In an essay by Kip Hartvigsen, a professor at BYU-Idaho, he quotes Jeffrey R. Holland, "The fundamental reason for a school in Zion is plainly and simply because...[learning] is our theology" (146). I believe with all my heart that part of being on Earth is to learn. This learning is a combination of formal and informal education, and every person is responsible to learn as much as they can. I am thankful for this opportunity to continue to be stretched intellectually, spiritually, and emotionally.

Most of the time, I feel that the education that will teach me the most now and forever is being a mother. I find that I learn far more than Jane does as I try to teach her. With Mother's Day around the corner, I have been doing some self-reflection. I confess that I have enough patience to fill a thimble and some days I do a lot of deep breathing and switching Disney movies out. Those days make my schoolwork and teaching look like a walk in the park. On the other hand, I will tell you about a good day. (I don't think Moms share these enough.) The other day, Jane and I went to Walmart. I talked to Jane on her level and told her that if she stayed by me and listened to my instructions, she could stay out of the cart. If she didn't listen or stay near, she would have to sit in the cart. Well, I am happy to say that we spent about twenty minutes in the store and she stayed close and listened the whole time. It was a good experience. What are your good days or moments like?

Now, I have to openly give credit where credit is due. Mothers become better when they have great husbands. My husband Cody is seriously the best. He takes Jane to the park, does dishes, helps clean the house, gives me time and is wonderfully patient with his two feisty girls. He teaches me how to parent with love all of the time. I have been so blessed and I would be ungrateful not to say so. He also brought me home orchids after I finished my classes on Thursday and every time I look at them I am happy. Thank you Sweets!

One last thought on mothers (and fathers really)... Tonight, Jane and I went to our church's talent show (Cody had to work). I had previously told Cody that I had signed us up to sing "A Whole New World" for this event, and he immediately was upset and slightly stressed. He said he tried to think of an excuse quickly. Of course, I was teasing and gave Cody a good laugh, but I did go to the talent show to support the brave souls that are willing to share their gifts. I consider myself empty on performable talents, so when I heard the MC of the show, a beautiful and funny woman in our ward, announce an award for making the cutest baby and had me bring Jane up to accept an official pin made out of cute cupcake liners and paper, I was mostly embarrassed. But afterwards I thought about the fact that the coolest thing I, or anyone else, could create and share, is a human being. Although I don't know if it is a talent, I am going to count making cute babies as one since I can't boast any others! Take a look at your children (if you have any). Look at their hair, their eyelashes, their eyes, their hands, feet, nose, the list goes on. You helped create that beautiful, unique person. Congratulations, you have a talent, or for most, another talent! (Trina and Ben Wharton (sister and brother in law) are the newest creators of another beautiful baby girl!)

I hope all the mothers that read this will feel of my love and appreciation for them. Happy Mother's Day! 
Also, thanks for letting me share my good news. I hope you have plenty to be happy about as well!

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